Blessed or...

I am curious if anyone else has this little argument going on inside their head…it is how we use the terminology blessed and how we attribute things to God's goodness. I hear people, all the time, say things like the weather was horrible, but God was good and our flight left on time. I also find myself saying, "I am so blessed that "X" did not happen to me" but then for the rest of the day I am disturbed by having said it and I wonder if I inferred that the person who had "X" happen to them was not blessed. For example, I was having a conversation at the therapist's office with another mother and we were lamenting the fact that it can be challenging to get multiple therapies in for our children, week in and week out, but on the other hand we felt so "blessed" that our children are as functional as they are. I do feel blessed to have my child and I am happy he is in as good of shape as he is, but I do not think I would be any less blessed if my child were less functional. I am blessed because God walks with me through life, and He has provided a way for me to be in a restored relationship with my creator that will last forever. God is good whether we make our flight or miss our flight, and the logic follows in even more serious cases. God is still good if our loved ones suffer injustice, disease or even death.

I know part of the answer to my frustration with this terminology is that we tend to be flippant with using the phrase "God is good", and we also tend to use blessed in strange ways, but another part of me says a dilemma still exists. How do we express our gratefulness for our circumstances without feeling like we are grateful to God only because of the good things He has done for us and hence infer that our response might be otherwise were our circumstances different?

Ideas?

I have one idea but am not sure if I am satisfied with it. My only thought would be to say that I am free to use "God is good" and "I am blessed" as long as I continually remind myself that God is good all the time regardless of what I see around me, and that I am blessed regardless of my circumstances. I need to live with the reminder of what blessed truly means and with a reminder that I do not fully know all that is going on around me and how it will play out eternally. It allows me to say "God is good" with a good perspective, but it does not seem like an expression of gratefulness because it is what I would have said regardless of the circumstance. I guess I could just say, "God I am really grateful for this, and I know you would love me just as much even if you had not given me this gift, but I am grateful and say thank you for what you have given me."

I am not saying that we should not say we are blessed, or proclaim that God is good. I am saying I want to be intentional with my speech and my thoughts about being blessed. I am also admitting that I am trying to think through how to authentically thank God when something particularly good happens to my loved ones or me.
I know, I know, I think too much!